Two Sidesof me
Bianca smiling beside a lake on a relaxed family walk
Somewhere between the boardroom and the bedtime story.

Hi, I'm Bianca

One side of me thinks I can be brilliant at work, a supermom, an excellent wife and generally succeed at life, all at the same time. I am starting to realise that may be my naïve side.

I lead technology transformation. I am also a working mother trying to understand what changes when I admit that I cannot be excellent at everything, everywhere, all at once.

This blog is where I walk through that recognition and what it might mean for me, as I process the ambition, guilt, trade-offs and contradictions that come with trying, usually while I am still in the middle of them.

TransformationCloudAILeadershipWorking motherhood
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Why I Am Doing This Now

Because the two sides were never really separate.

I have been thinking about starting a blog for a long time, which is fairly typical of me. I have always been good at having ideas and less reliable when it comes to following them through.

Let's also be honest: AI has made this the easiest possible time to follow through. If I still leave the idea sitting in my head, that is entirely on me.

The bigger reason is less tidy. Work, leadership, motherhood, ambition and the rest of life all compete for attention, often at the same time. I need somewhere to put those thoughts down and work out what I think.

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Two sides. One life.

What I learn leading change shapes how I mother. What I learn at home changes how I lead. This is where both belong.

What would you like to read?
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Cloud · AI · Transformation

Leading change
and
Bianca and her family walking hand in hand down a tree-lined path02

Health · Home · Heart · Hustle

Living the lesson
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Notes from real life

Latest stories

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Around my table · Table Theory01

My Table Wobbles Too

A more honest way of thinking about balance, trade-offs and the seasons when all you have is a sachet of sugar.

Bianca holding and comforting her sick child
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Both sides · Leadership and motherhood02

Things I Keep Having to Learn

What mistakes, intimidating leaders, career labels and motherhood keep teaching me about the person beneath the role.

Bianca standing on a beach with her two daughters wearing sun hats
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Both sides · Care and change03

Sometimes, All You Need Is a Plaster

A three-year-old, a headache and a small reminder that not everything that helps has to fix the whole problem.

Kaylee resting with a plaster visible on her forehead and her face obscured for privacy
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The work side · Leadership and AI04

Why I Love Leading Engineers, Excuse Me, Builders

On mastery, visibility and helping engineers recognise that their value has always stretched beyond the code.

Bianca standing beside the words Building The Code Enterprise, with company names blurred behind her
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The work side · Change and transformation05

Have We Created the Monster That Is Change?

What if the problem isn’t people’s resistance to change, but the way we’ve taught them to experience it?

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Around my table · Motherhood and honesty06

The Monday Morning Sigh

On loving my girls fiercely, running out of energy and admitting that relief and love can exist at the same time.

Bianca sitting with her two daughters in a bedroom, with the children’s faces blurred for privacy
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Bianca's Table Theory

Balance is a living thing.

Health, home, heart and hustle will not carry equal weight in every season. The theory is not about perfect balance. It is about noticing the wobble and deciding what needs you now.

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Bianca working on a laptop while holding her baby during a meeting